Six Easy Ways to Build Your Child’s Self Esteem
The beliefs and feelings we have about ourselves are called self-esteem. Our methods of motivation, attitudes, emotional judgments and actions are all affected by the way we perceive ourselves.
Self-esteem includes other qualities, such as self-confidence, pride, independence, self-reliance, and self-respect. Experts say we develop our self-esteem during childhood, and it constantly evolves as we are shaped by the different social interactions and experiences we go through.
Enhancing a child’s self-esteem is the first step to ensuring his or her right to personal safety. Keeping children away from physical harm is only secondary.
Keeping your outlook positive will help your child maintain a positive self-esteem. Praising them when they learn, try or accomplish things will help your child feel confident that they are good at those things, and foster their growing sense of positive self-esteem.
However, positive comments are not the sole builders of self-esteem. Providing a warm, loving, and caring environment are just as important. Children who are shown a lot of affection can still suffer low self-esteem because they feel inadequate or unaccomplished. On the flip side, confident and joyful children can have low self-esteem if they are not loved. A child must experience a balance of both love and confidence to have high self-esteem.
Delivering positive messages and engaging in constructive communication lead to a healthy self-perception. Try these time-tested tips to enhance your child’s can-do attitude.
1. Give “Don’ts” as little as necessary Handing out too many negative remarks will leave a child feeling inadequate. Keep your responses as positive as possible.
2. Allow a child to finish their own sentence Children begin to feel unimportant if you are always putting words into their mouth. Let them finish what they’re trying to say without interruption.
3. Establish eye contact. Be a good model of conversation by giving kids your full attention. This communicates that you are interested in what they are saying and that you are stressing a noteworthy idea, as well.
4. Make sure you have conversations One person shouldn’t do all the talking. Likewise, kids must learn only one person should talk at a time. Everyone can’t speak at once. Make sure they know that if more than one person is trying to talk, they won’t understand a thing.
5. Keep your cool. Make sure you wait to talk to your child when you are calm and relaxed. Speaking to a child when you are angry will only feed the flames of conflict.
6. Don’t be afraid to discipline. If your child misbehaves, tell them in a simple way they understand that the behavior is unacceptable, and explain what behavior you expect.